Throughout this two year process of adopting and becoming a mother there have been many thoughts of fears, assumptions, and concerns that I have had to deal with. There was always one fear that I had in the back of my mind that I prayed, hoped and wished wouldn't come true, but low and behold it did...and it truly was one fear that deep down I really thought woud not come true.
OK, so what was my fear.....First, I am actually embarrased to even say this fear out loud and to even have these feelings of hurt and disappointment toward family, frieds, and co-workers but I think its important to share this...I believe people need to be aware that no matter how a child is brought into a family it is still nice to have a shower given to the child...And no matter how much time or work it may take it will mean a great deal to the parent and child in the future, to have their family, friends and/or co-workers give them a shower that celebrated becoming a family...
No one gave Elysa a baby shower!!!!............
So, I have a few questions for folks out there.....
Are baby showers for the parent or the child?
Do you know someone who wasn't given a shower for thier first child?
Does having a child through adoption make it so different that people don't give them baby showers?
Even though no baby shower was given to us we will ALWAYS celebrate our becoming a family every year on the day we finally were able to hold Elysa!!! She was in our hearts long before that day but that was the day we offically became a family!!!
Not only will we celebrate becoming a family but every year we will thank her foster mom for taking such great care of her for 10months, the Chinese government for matching us with the perfect daughter for our family and her biological parents for concieving and giving birth to her so she could be a part of our lives forever!!!
